Getting the power back

By Makiniah Sylviah

We certainly aren’t seeing any shortage in badly behaving politician. There is, however, a very noticeable trend in these political scandals: Most of them involve a man in power, not a woman. This begs the question: Does power affect everyone’s behavior? Or is it People in power are more confident, self-assured, assertive, and impulsive than people low in power?

While numbers may be an easy culprit, the real reason for fewer political scandals might lie with our perception of the ideal man versus the ideal woman. When you ask a woman or a man to describe the ideal man, it wouldn’t be uncommon for them to mention a man’s power, his status, and his competency.

The more power and competence a man possesses, the more attractive he will seem to women at large. From an evolutionary stand-point, women are looking for a man that can be a protector and a provider; political power is one modern aspect that can translate to meet these needs. In a more modern sense, women might still simply be looking for the perfect husband: one in control, one in a position to raise their social status, and one with enough wealth to provide the perfect life.

On the other hand, politically powerful women haven’t been known to set men’s hearts aflutter. In fact, women with high levels of perceived power and competence can actually be threatening and less appealing to men. Historically, a woman was valued for her looks before anything else Our culture simply isn’t congratulating female politicians on their competence in the same way it congratulates its males; the affairs and office trysts only seem to go to the men.

Likewise in respect of the power that is within us women. The bible says “we are more than conquerors”. We need to plug up more stuff, try more things, stop doubting, you won’t know until you try. You have the power to start a business, have a high ranking job, write a book, and get a good education. Become who you want to become even if it’s not modeled around you or in your family. Innovate a new path, dream, believe, and trust.

Don’t be intimidated by another woman; stop comparing yourself to other women when they come in your midst. You know how we do, we scan her from head to toe, then begin to take her apart “she thinks she’s all that” correction, no you think she’s all that. We don’t need to compare ourselves. We are original’s, there are no duplicate’s. When we act that way, we’re just magnifying the insecurity we have in ourselves. Insecurity is falsified truth; we embrace it although it is negative in nature. Listening to it, entertaining it, will not produce a good outcome. That kind of reductive reasoning makes us feel inadequate in many areas.

Stop looking to people, men especially for validation. Validation comes from God he said” we are fearfully and wonderfully made”. Validation comes from within not vice-verse.

Celebrate yourself; take time to pamper your self

Get a monthly massage, manicure, and pedicure facial

Go out monthly with the ladies to dine and entertainment

Take a trip to unwind; to re-energize, to advance spiritually, not retreat, we go forward

Surround yourself, with strong, confident, women that are supportive, that will refresh you, deposit words of affirmation in your spirit.

Giving it the woman’s touch will make you have the power that can’t be replaced and attained with a different being,